parenting discussion boards
Question for the adoptive parents, first parents and adoptees?
What roles do you feel adoptive parents have in reunification? Is this age dependant? Adoptees, did you include your adoptive parents in the process or hide it from them out of fear of how they would react? First parents, did you want to meet the adoptive parents when your children found you? When you met with your bio fam, did you want your adoptive parents with you? Did they wait to share any info they had at 18 or how did you get it? If you didn’t want your first parents there, how did they react to it? Did they help you search? How did your first family react to the request to have your adoptive parents there if that was what you wanted? Was it too personal and something you had to do yourself? If you had both sets there, what happened? I propose that there is not one right set of answers here but many so please no judgements. I am looking for respectful diversity of answers here for discussion the board. Roles and feelings can be complicated.
I was removed from my birth parents when I was five. I was adopted when I was eight. I always knew that I was adopted and spent all my childhood days thinking about them. My adoptive family gave me a great home, but I always yearned for my birth parents. When I was 24, I finally took the steps to locate them. I felt as though the first reunion should be by myself. I did not want anyone to feel uncomfortable. I learned so much through this experience. My birth mom really did not want me to be part of her life. This hurt so bad since I yearned so much for her affection and acceptance. My birth dad was really excited to see me. We had a wonderful reunion. He answered many question that my birth mom could not or would not answer. I told my adoptive parents prior to locating both my birth parents. They were very concerned about the possible heartache I may endure if they were to reject me. I cried over my birth mom’s rejection, but was elated over my birth dad’s acceptance. I was able to finally let go of so many mixed emotions that I once had. I have never tried to contact my birth mom again. I left her my phone number and address, in case she changed her mind. She has never contacted me. I am still in contact with my birth dad. My adoptive family was very understanding of my need to have him a part of my life. If you are contemplating meeting your birth family, go into it with an open mind. Be ready for rejection. I hope it does not happen, but I know to well that it can.
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