authoritative democratic parenting
How much freedom should children have? Being strict or provide children with many choices as possible?……..
I need your help and cooperation. Just let me know if you are parent or not and which is your type of parenting… (Permissive – democratic – authoritative …Maybe you are somewhere in between-) I am going to use it for my research.
Try to remember: No parenting style will work unless you build a loving bond with your child.
I am not a parent but my husband and I are educators. As a result, I believe I am a little more unbiased and can see things as they are not as I want to believe they are.
With that being said, I believe that children need structure. That does not mean that one should plan out every second of the child’s day but it is imperative that the child know when and what will trigger certain responses. Children are very adept at deciphering when discipline is not consistent or non-existent.
I see too many parents that say thing like “All I ask is that he do homework. He doesn’t have to do chores or work. I don’t know why he won’t do his work.” That is a recipe for disaster. Children who do not learn the value of hardwork by having to perform some chores (age appropiate) and/or never learn that everything in this earth has to be earned (not a right) grow up to be irresponsible.
Also, a huge problem today is that parents do not spend enough time with their children. Parents today believe that providing material goods for their children is their ONLY duty. As a result, you have young kids that are unsupervised but have access to cash. That is no way to grow up because as the old saying goes, “idle hands are the devil’s tools.”
Bottom line: No one is guaranteed a good outcome when it comes to rearing children. However, if a parent provides the child with unconditional love, genuine interest, and reasonable boundaries success is much more attainable.
Children Listening – Being Parent Deaf