parenting coordinator training
How do you know when a marriage really isn’t worth the fight?
Ok ok! we have not been married since i was 15 but together since i was 15. We got married two years ago when I was 20 and we have two beautiful girls, 3 and 1. He has another child outside and I only complain because I really never got a chance to find out any of my likes dislikes or anything. His parents spoiled him so bad that he doesn’t know how to pay bills and I have always been independent to take care of my responsibilites. I have a great career as a training coordinator . he has a good job too, i am just a little confused about what really constitutes love and how if i thought i was in love to finally break it to him and myself that i may not be. If i bring things up, real issues or worries, he gets attitude and backfires with your not perfect either. his issues: not talking to me, staying out overnite, porno addict and drinking. I grew up and expected him to grow with me but he hasn’t. I am so tired……….
Well, I definitely think there are some red flags when I read about his ” issues “. You will continue to feel tired in this marriage unless there is some serious change. You’re right — you probably never had the opportunity to learn more about your likes/dislikes during those years. Those learning opportunities help shape and define you. But life will continue to be a learning experience. I most certainly do not encourage divorce but at the same time, if you feel tired now, imagine how you will feel with each passing day that nothing improves. In marriage, when you husband does not live up to his 50% of the relationship, you have to make up the difference ( and vice versa). So when he is only giving 30%, you must give 70%. It would be tolling to make up for his slack the majority of the time for years and years. As far as his maturity, he sounds as if he has a way to go. It has been my experience that when you have to wonder whether or not you are in love, than most likely you are not. There is something comforting in familiarity, even if the situation in far from ideal. He has been a very large part of your life. I mean, if you have been together since you were 15 and are 22 now, you have been with him for 7 years, which is slightly more than 1/3 of your life. My biggest concern for married people who question if they are in love or happy ( because, like I said, if you are confused or not sure, than you most likely are not) is over time, your children will pick up on that vibe. And all of his issues, if that’s how he reacts to real issues and worries, understand that life will be full of these. So if he reacts that way, there will be more bad behavior in response. If you know in your heart of hearts that you are not and cannot be happy with this person, then you must be strong for yourself and your children. I hope you have a good support system as you are trying to make this decision. I think it’s easy to live with contentment rather than pursue happiness. It may take years for you to find the right person, but because you will not be wasting your energy on him, you will have more for yourself and your girls. Good luck to you.
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