parenting techniques for adhd
Defiant son, and Im exhausted..?
My son is 9. We adopted him at 9 months from Europe. He has been diagnosed by psychiatrists with ADHD, ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) and CD (conduct disorder). I tried all the bonding techniques, holding, etc. Since age 2 he has been giving me bloody lips, hitting, kicking, punching, verbally nasty, breaking things, etc. He has been out of control and seeing a psychiatrist since about age 3. We went thru 6 nannies in 5 months. They could not take his behavior. We have been to parent coaching classes, therapy, etc. (He is on medication). He is monitored weekly for group therapy and every 2 to 4 weeks for his medicine. Most boarding schools do not allow students until they are 6th grade…and he is in 3rd. My Mom, his Nana is here now to help us as well. She always said, “oh, he’s just a little boy”…but now living with us for 6 months, she is physically exhausted by him too. She said to me, “you DO need help with him.” Advice?
I feel for you.
I think your only option is to keep constantly asking for further help from HIS doctor. He seems to have many problems that you say are beyond your control. I am sure you love him and have done your best – but if he is physically hurting you – you need serious help for him.
Insist that he has further tests and medication to control his violent behavior. Also consider these places where he can stay for a weekend for eg with full medical and emotional care, so the rest of the family can get some respite.
Don’t you feel bad for a moment, you have taken him in and given him all you can, sadly sometimes we must admit defeat.
To be strong for him you all may well need some space and thinking and recharging time.
I really hope you find a balance to suit this troubled child and your family.
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